Behind the Poem: Even if We Don’t Make It

Behind the Poem: Even if We Don’t Make It

This realization inspired me to write a poem titled Even if We Don't Make It, which delves into the bittersweet reality of impermanence.

In a world where enduring love stories are revered, I find solace in the stories of elders who have experienced various paths to happiness. The ups and downs. Laughing at foolish moments that I’m sure they couldn’t find humor in when it happened. I have witnessed couples who have celebrated over three decades of marriage, and others who found their true soulmate after a couple of failed attempts. Surprisingly, there were even couples whom I believed would last a lifetime, only to see them transition into a profound friendship instead of remaining romantic partners.

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Behind the Poem: 11:11pm

Behind the Poem: 11:11pm

Check out the story behind the first poem in Orange September. Amidst loss and unexpected encounters, a simple act of making tea prompts a realization to let go of detrimental patterns. The 11:11pm illuminated from the microwave. I committed to self-compassion and resilience, ready to create a life aligned with accountability, improvement, my dreams and desires.

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So, I Got Married Last Year. :)

So, I Got Married Last Year. :)

I share a lil recap of last year’s marriage ceremony at Love Park…including some mishaps along the way. The ceremony is filled with joy, vows exchanged, and loved ones in celebration and support. A memorable and love-filled day for my spouse and I.

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Embrace the Essence of June: 5 Poetry Ideas

Embrace the Essence of June: 5 Poetry Ideas

Discover five captivating poetry prompt ideas for June on my blog. Awaken your creativity with prompts that delve into nature's beauty, emotions, history, introspection, and fantastical realms. Unleash your poetic prowess and let your words paint vivid images, evoke deep emotions, and transport readers to enchanting worlds. Get inspired today!

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Debunking the Myth: STIs and STDs WLW Should Be Aware Of:

Debunking the Myth: STIs and STDs WLW Should Be Aware Of:

Debunking the Myth: STIs and STDs WLW Should Be Aware Of addresses the misconception that lesbians are not at risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and diseases (STDs). Check out the practical tips for practicing safe sex, emphasizes the need for open communication, and highlights the STIs and STDs that women who love women (Or people with 2 vaginas) should be aware of. By dispelling this myth and promoting safe sex practices, individuals can prioritize their sexual health and well-being, regardless of sexual orientation.

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The Importance of Full Acceptance

Please Note: This piece was written June 2021 from the temporarily defunct, Neri Magazine.

 

Whether people accept you or not, it is imperative you embrace yourself completely. With anti-LGBTQ laws flourishing in various states in the U.S, accepting who you are is just as imperative as it was in 1977, when Anita Bryant began her anti-LGBT campaign in Dade County, Florida.

There is a rainbow sea of coming out stories on the web. Narratives of people courageously declaring to their loved ones that they love in curved ramps and forked roads. We’re still surrounded by heteronormativity despite the small increase of societal acceptance of the LGBTQIA+ community (pandering and monetizing the community, not included). Realizing that you’re different in some way can be hard to swallow, especially if that kind of different has 65 groups so against its unique flair. However, the importance of coming out to yourself and accepting who are you is pivotal. Leaving internalized homophobia to run rampant in you can potentially lead to anxiety, depression and in some cases, suicide ideation. Life is a beautiful journey with inevitable trials. With all the obstacles we must face, denying who you are just adds more unnecessary strife.

Looking back, I realized that I was one of the people who carried that self-denial and unnecessary strife when it came to my sexuality. The root cause for my internalized homophobia was based on the denomination I was indoctrinated in and my surroundings. I am still unraveling and unpacking years of grooming and “straight fixing”. Nonetheless, I am also aware of the lack of conversation, representation resources around me when it came to sexual orientation.

Growing up and during the early teen years, coming out or sexual orientation for that matter wasn’t really a conversation, just dismissive statements and bypassed lines. “It’s a phase.” “Take your time, you’re still young.” “It’s disgusting.” “My parents won’t let me hang out with faggots.”

A few years after de-converting from Christianity, I came out to myself in 2018. First thing in the morning, on January 26th, I accepted that I was a woman who loves women, and I felt lighter. I finally dropped the load of self-hate, the homophobic rhetoric told to me and the actions I’ve seen with my own eyes that threatened my very existence for being authentic. At that moment I realized just how much I deprived myself of living freely in my skin. I felt how tired I really was carrying an identity that was somewhat me but not actually me. It was as though seven weighted blankets were gently lifted off my shoulders. Although it may have taken awhile to fully accept myself as a lesbian, I was grateful to do so in this lifetime. The bricked ceiling that limited my self-esteem was obliterated and I felt more confident within myself. I felt more authentic with myself and others.

Yes, I dated other women before that moment, but internalized homophobia blanketed my being even as I advocated for others within the LGBTQIA+ community. I was able to love and accept them. However, accepting myself- that wasn’t a default response. Coming out to others while still harboring self-denigration will not bring you any closer to peace. In addition, this goes beyond a political agenda or attack on any religion. David Matheson, a former practitioner of “ex-gay therapy”, came out as gay in 2019- hold the self-hate and gay conversion therapy. He is still a Mormon from what the media is aware of. No matter what you believe or don’t believe: accept yourself.

 Accepting that you’re attracted to someone in a non-heteronormative fashion is a big step and a courageous one. However, it is only the beginning. Once you come out to yourself, your loved ones and live out your life more authentically, remember that others may not accept you. Even to the point of creating laws that dehumanize, belittle and discriminate against you. Accept you, love you, and fight for you and others like you. This journey doesn’t end at self-acceptance, but it’s one of the biggest.

Now, go be real with you.   

           

 

May Inspiration: 5 Poetry Ideas for Springtime Creativity

May Inspiration: 5 Poetry Ideas for Springtime Creativity

Looking for poetic inspiration this May? Look no further than these five poetry ideas, perfect for capturing the essence of springtime in your writing. Whether you're a seasoned poet or just starting out, these prompts will spark your creativity and help you tap into the beauty of the season. May poetry writing prompts.

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3 Tips on Spring Cleaning Your Apartment

3 Tips on Spring Cleaning Your Apartment

Spring is here, and it's the perfect time to deep clean your apartment. A good spring cleaning can help you start the season off fresh and give your home a new lease on life. Of course home owners can use these tips too.

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